NO, I’m not pregnant. But I am planning to move Bangkok in about a month.
Screeeeeech! WHAT?
Yep, Bangkok. Thailand. Where one night makes a hard man humble, at least, if you’re a fan of cheezy ’80s musicals.
It’s not 100% definite yet (still need to sign a contract, could still fall through, etc., etc.), but basically I have an offer to consult with UNICEF (the awesome UN children’s agency) starting in February. It’s a three month gig to start, with the possibility of a year’s extension, so we’ll leave Pip here in Salinas while I do the three months, then if the job works out for a longer period, I’ll fly back here and we’ll take the boat to Annapolis and put her up for sale, then move to Bangkok again in (probably) July. It’s all rather fluid at the moment, but that’s the schedule at the moment. It changes daily, so stay tuned.
I’ll be working on a project to get finance ministries (you know, the budget guys) in the region to set aside more money to making children’s lives better. That’s the simple version, but you get the idea. I’m super excited about the project.
I’m also excited about Bangkok; when we decided to stop cruising this past summer, I had a bit of a crisis, wondering how — without the freedom afforded by a traveling home – I’d ever get the chance to really delve into some of the places on my bucket list: Tuscany, Turkey, Thailand… (Like the woman in Eat, Pray, Love, I like alliteration in my travel.) But Philip really doesn’t like this life, and I like Philip more than I like traveling, so we decided to head back toward DC and work for a couple of years while figuring out what the next adventure would be.
Then, out of the blue, comes an opportunity to move to Thailand, perhaps for 3 months, perhaps for a year and 3 months. ?Which just goes to show how important it is to remain open to opportunity. I’ve spent a lot of my life saying no to things, in order to have things I want later on. I’m really, really, really good at deferred gratification. Seriously, I was that weird little kid in second grade getting upset about an A- because I had to get straight A’s to get scholarships for college. That’s how we were able to have this big sailing adventure — we saved and scrimped and planned and learned for 10 years. And then we get out here, and it’s not working, and OMG, NOW WHAT????
For the first time in my life, I didn’t have a plan. No next step, beyond, OK, let’s start a job search and head toward the Mid-Atlantic in the spring and see what happens, maybe we’ll end up in Baltimore, or maybe not. It was liberating, and scary.
But the amazing thing is how the universe just came through on this one. If someone had offered me the opportunity to move to Bangkok and work for UNICEF four years ago, I would have declined, no matter how cool I thought the opportunity, because we had a PLAN to get on a sailboat and have great adventures. I would have missed the chance to have an amazing adventure, because I was planning an adventure.
Yoga (and Buddhism) talk a lot about non-attachment, the idea that the root of all suffering is grasping, or attachment, to people, stuff, ideas, or even just wanting things to be different than they are. Or attachment to your plans, and goals… If the cruising life has taught me anything, though, it’s how to avoid being attached to your plans and remain open to possibility. Cruisers say that plans are written in the sand at low tide, which is a goofy expression, but apt when you are living at the whims of the weather and bureaucracy and boat repairs. Over the past two years on the boat, we’ve finally learned that you don’t make plans in life, and it’s better to have big goals (like, visit cool places and be happy) rather than specific targets (like, I’m going to Colombia in September), because shit intervenes, or maybe you just realize that there are also awesome opportunities on a different path.